"A very great part of the mischiefs that vex the world arises from words."
To underestimate the power of words is a grave mistake imho.
And the issue generally arise from an inability to put those words into context.
Example: An American hears a Brit say, "I'm gonna smoke a fag."
Doesn't mean he's going to kill a homosexual... it means he's going to smoke a cigarette. And if you don't think some hypersensitive American wouldn't wig out...
... you're cray-cray.
I was watching this stand up comedian Bill Burr and I think it may lighten the situation for you. Some 4 letter type words are used so don't watch if you are going to get offended.
They aren't homophobic, just using pop culture slang.
If you're re offended maybe you should be utilising that mute all function.
I can confidently say that 99.98% of the people who say "gay" "fag" faggit" "buttn1gger" "jewkyke" etc don't mean litterally at all, they are just expressing a distaste for something.
Same as "sick" nowdays means good etc.
If you don't like it I suggest you remove your ears or grow a thicker skin mate.
To overestimate the power of words is also a mistake.