i know there must be an obvious way to do it and i am just too stupid to see it because what legitimate reason could there be for a developer not to let a player see their own ping?
In the game you can't..
im sorry i dont understand?
There is no facility in the game for you to see your ping to the game lobby you are in.
you have never been able to see your ping only bars which represented a large 100ms range so actually served no purpose other than to give people a crux.
There is no reason to have the bars or ping shown in game i for one and glad we finally got rid of them from in game. If you are expereincing latency in game you will know you are you dont need bar to tell you
It is as gambit1969 and maccabi said, the only representation of latency are the bars. If you wish to improve you connectivity, make sure your platform is directly connected to your router and follow these tips Activision Support.