That wouldn't ease my anger, but a good idea because ive been tempted to throw the controller at my big screen, and that would dent the pockets a little.
I did lower it. That actually proved to be worse, with or without being host.
I'm done hosting and back on a moderate nat, I get losses with the host dashing frequently but at least I don't host myself 24/7, playing this game competitively is impossible with this hosting, matchmaking and lag comp system. Unless you can find a party of people nearby, but even then the host has to deal with stuttering aka constant frame drops.
I agree, I feel local parties have connection advantages. My cousins who live in chicago all have 2.0+kd and always play in parties of 5 - 6 people. When I join their party I do good but I struggle. When I invite 2 of them to play a game with me, I am the leader and my connection is better then theirs. So I am assuming the matchmaking makes it more local to me. They get destroyed when they are in my party, and they usually rage.